Forgive and Forget......... really...

My case :

Do you find it difficult to forgive people who wronged you from the depth of your heart?You have come to the right place.I had this problem too.It was too difficult for me to forgive people who did wrong by me.Some incident happened in my life.I was wronged.The person responsible agreed it was his/her mistake and stopped doing that.This should be enough for any normal person to forgive this person and carry on with their lives.But me...no.I continued speaking to this person as if that episode never happened.Being polite and kind when i saw him/her in person.So others would think I am a very forgiving person.On the contrary my mind would cling and burn at the injustice done to me.Because of him/her I lost this oppurtunity.Whenever I see this person, after being a polite guest or hostess, at my leisure I just fume in my mind and feel very bad and vent out(as i call it) to my close ones.They tried in vain to make me let go of that issue.Until one day I realised that person whoever did this to me,thinks I have forgiven and forgotten that episode.Now he/she doesn't feel guilty or troubled whenever he/she has to meet me and move along with me.He/she might even think I am a good person.This puts him/her absolutely at peace.He/she is a happy person.

But on the other hand, here I am, troubled.This is not fair.He/she did the wrong thing.He/she is happy.I was the victim.I am still reliving that injustice every time i meet his person.I go through this agony everytime i see this perosn.This is exactly why it is very important to forgive people and let go things.

I earlier used to say " I will never forgive this person for what he/she has done to me and what oppurunity he/she made me loose" as if me not forgiving is very important to him and not to me.But now I realise you forgive some one for your own good not for their sake.This is when I found out that forgiving is not that easy.All the while I have been thinking,"I am not forgiving this person for my own reasons,but if i wanted to forgive him i could do it just like that".How wrong.Then certain things happened to teach me slowly how to forgive.That comes in the next post.